Why do we choose the partners we choose?
What do we really want from a relationship?
And how conscious are we of the needs driving us?
Winter always puts me in this reflective mood. Everything slows, wraps itself inward, reveals the bones of things.
Looking at all this through the lens of somatic inquiry, the repression work.
I ask myself, “Why this man?” The answer is layered.
I do feel protected and cared for; safety is here for me. Where is passion?
I realize I have a story that I adopted since childhood, they don’t see me, they can’t get me. reliving my story.
But here’s the truth I’m touching now:
To be seen is not passive.
It’s not about waiting for someone else to have the curiosity, the perfect emotional skill set to engage with me.
It’s about my willingness to open, to let myself be seen, to bring the tender and trembling parts of me forward.
And yes, it’s scary. Exposing the hurt, the fear, even knowing they might not fully meet me.
I meet myself.
I have my own back. It is empowering.
Somatic inquiry gives me the tools to get to know myself at the deepest level, to process what’s arising. I became more alive and curious about me and the world.
This is where Relational Presence becomes a living practice for me.
A space where we don’t pretend to be polished.
Where we can be messy, honest, curious humans.
Where we feel the subtle impacts we have on each other, the places we connect, the places we drift, and what happens in our bodies through all of it.
It’s a playground for the truth.
A training ground for intimacy.
A space to learn how to stay with ourselves while staying with another.